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CHRISTIANS: How do you stay clean and pure in spite of all the wicked sin that goes on around you?

I'm a Christian in the military. I'm at the barracks and I can hear people upstairs doing the wild thing or knowing each other if you know what I mean. How would you deal with all that moaning?

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If I were in your place I would not stay in the barracks if I knew that was going on. I would go outside and find a quiet place and spend time praying for those people and others and I would spend a lot of time studying the Bible to increase my strength against the attacks of the devil. I have a prayer list printed in my Bible, and I can add anyone to it so there are plenty of people to pray for. You can include those people you mentioned, and should if you care for them at all.

You could also find things to do that are pleasing to God such as helping out people with their everyday needs like helping someone move or helping them with their studies or grocery shopping or a lot of other things. Make sure you let them know that the Lord who changed your life is the one whose love caused you to help them.

Basically what I am trying to tell you is to shift your focus. Sin is everywhere in the world and inescapable, but determining not to focus on those things will make it easier for you.

The Bible tells us that "God will not allow us to be tempted above what we are able to endure, but with every temptation He will make a way of escape that we may be able to bear it."

We sing a song in church that goes like this -

Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace.

This is a spiritual exercise that will go a long way toward keeping us from temptation.
I hope this not only helps you but that it enables you to walk in victory.


Have you read this?

Romans 1:24-28

Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator- who is forever praised. Amen.

Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

Furthermore since they did not think it worth while to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what should not be done.

Do you believe in ETERNITY? Will God over look your sin and send a thief to hell?  
What if you’re wrong and the BIBLE is right?  JUST, WHAT IF?

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The implications of the scriptures you quote are so obvious that everyone or nearly everyone jumped all over them and scorned them and mocked you, as if you were the God that wrote them.

Don't let it bother you that people choose to be ignorant. The Bible says that there would be some that would be willfully ignorant, and you are to let them be ignorant still.

This passage of scripture is obviously a condemnation of the homosexual and lesbian lifestyle and speaks of God's true judgment on those who refuse to repent of it.  Reprobate mind implies a mind that is devoid of moral understanding and in total rebellion against truth.  It doesn't take any great genius to understand what is being spoken.  Those who spout off against God fulfill the words of Proverbs Chapter 1 where the following words are written:

"How long ye simple ones will you love simplicity, and the scorners delight in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge?  Because I have called and ye have refused, I have stretched out my hand and no man regarded.  But ye have set at naught all my counsel, and would none of my reproof; I also will laugh at your calamity, and mock when your fear cometh.

Then shall they call on me, but I will not answer, They will seek me early but they will not find me. For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the Lord."

It is a terrible thing to mock God and His word and His people as they seek to minister life to those who walk in ignorance and spiritual darkness. The Bible says it were better for those people that they tie a millstone around their neck and cast themselves into the sea
than mock God's people. They are to be pitied, and we should be deeply concerned that they come to know truth before they come to a time when it is no longer available to them.

As a Christian it deeply grieves me in my heart to think of one single soul spending all eternity separated from God in the Lake of Fire when escape has been made possible for all who will turn to Christ for salvation.  I pray that there is at least one teachable person reading this that will consider what is being said and will see that mocking God and his people leads
to their own misery. I pray it will become real enough to them that they will Repent and allow Christ to be Lord of their lives.


Homosexuals of faith?

Are Homosexuals of faith better equipped to overcome their homosexual orientation desires than Gays with no religious affiliations?   In other words does belief in a higher being whether real or imagined enable Gays raised in religious environments to become heterosexual and actually enjoy the experience?  Can it really be a situation of mind over matter, and for those who succeed, are these individuals not in reality straight leaning bisexuals if not entirely straight with a confused sexual identity?  What is the clear answer on this?

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First of all there is no such thing as a Homosexual of faith!
The devil has all men and women who follow this lifestyle in great deception. Their religious affiliation is a lie propagated by Satan to make them feel as if they are acceptable to God.

The only thing that makes it easier for them to live a normal heterosexual life is salvation through Christ which comes with repentance from a sincere heart and trusting God for a 
total cleansing in their minds and hearts. I have also heard of some homosexuals delivered miraculously from aids with a total healing.

When God does a cleansing work it is not by halves.   There is complete healing in Christ. Therefore your question on bisexuality is irrelevant.  I have found that persons who are taught that Christianity is a commitment and a lifestyle that means absolute obedience to God, and that teaching is also reinforced as they are growing in their walk with the Lord, more often than not never regress to their previous lifestyle.

Additionally, There is not now and there never has been one shred of definitive proof that homosexuality is genetic. Therefore people who choose to believe that choose to believe a lie.

It is one of the greatest erroneous statements being made on or off the internet. God is not so incredibly stupid as to make a person genetically homosexual and then condemn them for it.  People who believe this are just flat out anti-God and want to live the way they want to without accountability.  Refusing to face the facts in this life will force them to face God after death without being prepared for the life to come.


Straight guy/dating?

Okay, this is tricky. I have a straight friend who knows I'm gay and we hang out. He has a girlfriend who I have never met in our two years of being friends. We usually meet out a few times a month for dinner/drinks and just to hang.  We have a great, respectful friendship. I have noticed that he always seems to find a reason to have to touch me, but perhaps he is just demonstrative. He now has started the habit of telling me how excited he is to see me when we meet out and of how much he looks forward to it etc.

Does it sound like he is sending me mixed signals and may be developing some emotions towards me?  It is starting to confuse me. I can honestly say that a relationship w/him would
be ideal, but I feel as if though there is something that needs to be discussed between us and am to afraid to initiate it.

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Repent of this sin, receive God's forgiveness, and find out what true love really is.

By the way, the only 'ideal relationship' existing in the universe is to Love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.

Homosexuality will never stop being a sin, and those who die living in this deviant lifestyle and will not repent and turn to God for salvation will find out that the majority is WRONG in this case.

THERE WON’T BE ONE SINGLE PERSON STANDING BEFORE THE THRONE OF THE MOST HIGH GOD WHO WILL PROUDLY SAY I AM GAY!   God's holiness will be so all consuming that the only thing people who die in this and other sins will be able to do is fall
on their face and in his presence and tremble as He sentences them to the Lake of Fire.

It isn't God's will for you to go there. If you go it will be your choice because of your defiance 

of God and His commands!


For Christian men?

Would you say it was natural for a Christian man in his 30s who is practicing sexual purity 110% in every way possible to have dreams (sleep) and effects (you know what I am talking about)?  I almost feel guilty for giving in to sexual temptation but it's while I’m dreaming what can I do. Would you say this is normal?

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It is perfectly normal. I would think that if this is something you deal with frequently you need to change your focus, pray that God would deliver you from it or ask God to give you a wife that loves Him above everyone and everything.


How should I tell my mom I’m a lesbian?

my mom is a serious control freak. I am in love with the girl I’m with.  We've been together for 

3 1/2 years.  We plan to get married.  I'm almost 16 and I need support.

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I am sorry that you think your mom is a control freak, but perhaps you may be reading her wrong. Perhaps it is her love for you and you are misjudging her intentions.

Lesbianism is a sin, and not love at all.

You are in need of salvation through Jesus Christ. God will forgive you if you ask Him to forgive and cleanse you of this lust, and He will give you a wonderful life filled with His love that is better than any love in the universe.

If you are honest with yourself, while you are still young enough to face facts without getting drowned in this lifestyle, you could go to the web sites that tell about homosexuals and lesbians who have found Christ as their Savior.  Many have turned from this lifestyle and are very happy that they did.   Sex sin is harder to break free from than any drug.

I will pray for you - It is a terrible trap to be in.


Do you think Jesus never preached about homosexuality because he was more concerned with you loving people?

I saw some posts about homosexuality today so I wanted to get a decent discussion going. Personally, I think that's a private matter between that person and the powers that be. If you don't agree with it then fine, don't agree with it.  What will anyone accomplish by making a fuss over it?

I will address Christians specifically here:

I think Jesus showed us what to do in this case whenever people were getting ready to stone the poor woman who was a prostitute.  He said something like, let he who is without sin cast the first stone right?

Instead of worrying about what homosexuals are doing why not just go out and use up that energy to help someone instead of condemning people.  Am I off base here or something?

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If anyone were condemning people you might have a case, but what some people choose to call condemning is merely honest concern for those who are spiritually blind to their condition.

Homosexuality is attacking Christianity - believe it or not. We are trying to speak the word of God in love so they may be saved. Burning in Hell or the Lake of Fire forever is a fearful thing that no real Christian would wish on anyone.

It is strange that we rush to rescue people from houses that are burning down so they don't die in the flames and we are called heroes, but when a person does what they can to rescue people from fire that will never be put out it is called condemnation. That is twisted reasoning!

I for one understand that the unregenerate mind is blind to truth because before the Lord changed me I was ignorant of all spiritual truth.   When my eyes were opened I saw the reality of the lost condition of myself as well as everyone on earth without Christ!  It is a revelation that was shocking and gave me zeal to see people saved no matter what it cost me or what people think of what I say in regard to trying to rescue others before it is too late.

Christ was mocked and crucified for His love to humanity. He warned His followers that they would endure the same hatred and scorn. It is of little concern to me what mockers and scorners say or what misinformation is spread about the reasons for what I do.  If by my small efforts one individual can be saved from an eternity of torment in a place of never ending suffering without hope of release - I will take all the mockery and scorning that anyone can pass out for the sake of that one soul.   Now if that is condemnation then so be it.


Why shouldn't gay people have rights? Just because of an ancient law?

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Sexual orientation is not a legal issue but a personal choice. There are already plenty of laws on the books protecting gays from persecution and attacks on them, as well as there is for others like the elderly.

The real issue isn't gay rights but they want to be recognized as normal by society and want laws passed that will give them rights based on their sexual preference while denying the rights to many other groups including the elderly.

If the gays are given special privileges then we can open the door to giving special rights and recognition to transsexuals, child molesters and people who have sex with animals. They could rightly argue that if one sexual preference deserves a special treatment, so do all sexual preferences.  Our society would be a very dangerous place to live because you would either tolerate everything or end up in jail or dead simply for what you believe even if you demonstrate peacefully against those things.

I don't feel we need to dictate to homosexuals what kind of life they live. It is their choice.  I don't want laws passed that force my children to have to accept a lifestyle in school that is forced on them by laws that say we can't speak up against it.


IT IS WRONG.  The double standard is that they can speak against all lifestyles they want while effectively stifling those who oppose theirs.

The current law being pushed as an add on to a bill that' not even related to this issue is to silence anyone who opposes homosexuality irregardless of whether they are Christian or not. That law is currently in the Senate being voted on either today or very soon after today.  1984 will be a reality if it is passed.


Fellow Christians with gay friends?

Christians who have gay friends:

1. Has your friendship with gays/lesbians affected your view of whether or not homosexuality is a sin?

2. Has it affected how you read the Bible?   (more metaphorical than literal? Or do you still see homosexuality as an "abomination"?)

3. Do you agree/disagree with what your church says about homosexuality?

Peace be with you.

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My friendship with anyone gay or straight has nothing to do with how I view sin.   My views on sin come from God's word, and that will never change.

Homosexuality is, has been and always will be sin in the eyes of God, and it is called an abomination in scripture. God won't change his view to suit me or anyone else.  I wouldn't want Him to change anyway because, like His laws, He is perfect!

I have never heard our church preach for or against gays, but I know they believe it is a sin. We don't focus on sin but on salvation from sin.   Everyone needs that because everyone
is a sinner.

One thing I know is that every homosexual who ever really got salvation God's way turned from homosexuality.  Many of them got married and are raising families and are very happy.  I have a very good friend who was delivered from that life and he is very happy in ministry.


Does the Bible really tell us to keep virginity until marriage?

Seriously, I know Christians and in my case, Catholics are supposed to keep virginity until they 

are marriage, but where in the Bible does it tell us to do so?  And why is it considered bad if we don't?  And why is promiscuity bad?  Any direct quotes, passages, etc. would be appreciated.

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The Bible explicitly forbids fornication (sex before marriage), and adultery (sex with someone else's spouse).  A few of the many verses on this subject are:

I Corinthians 6:9 and 10 - "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God?   Be not deceived; neither FORNICATORS, nor idolators, nor ADULTERERS, nor effiminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor theives, nor covetous, nor drunkards, 

nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God." -  Seems like a lot of bad company in these verses.

Ephesians 5:3 - "But fornication, and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not once be named among you as becometh saints."

Romans 13:9 - "For this Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, and etc."

Proverbs 6:32 - "But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding; he that doeth it destroys his own soul."

Aside from the spiritual side of fornication there is the possibility that you could get
STD's from someone you know who is infected and doesn't know it or who is infected and knows it but doesn't care how it affects others. There is also the possibility that the person you have sex with is secretly married and you will find out after. Another thing is that the person doesn't want a child if you get pregnant and you are put in a position to either abort (kill) the child or keep it and raise it yourself as so many mothers do in this generation.

The only upside to sex outside of marriage is physical lust fulfilled, and that is also a violation of God's law.   Sex is to be a holy alliance between one man and one woman for life.   All other sex is sinful and unacceptable to God.